Do you have a tantruming child? Does it feel like your child is living up to the “terrible two’s” or “trying three’s”?
Does the screaming child who is throwing themselves on the floor and kicking their legs overwhelm you? Do you “loose your cool” at times when nothing will soothe them? Do these tantrums seem to come out of the blue and you have no idea why? Perhaps you have an older tantruming child of 5, 6 or even 7 and you are confused as to why they have not outgrown this phase. Do you feel like everyone seems to have gotten the “mommy handbook of tantrums” except you? You love your child, but do you feel like you are at the end of your rope?
Let me begin by assuring you all these and more are completely normal feelings as a parent. EVERYONE goes through a time when they feel like they are failing as a parent and it usually happens when their child is having a huge and uncontrollable tantrum that leaves everyone frustrated and exhausted.
The good news is …. I CAN HELP!
Within the therapeutic process some of the things I like to cover include:
- How to learn what your child needs
- How to help your child use words to express themselves rather than the ear piercing display that inevitably happens right in the middle of the grocery store
- How you, as a parent or caretaker can learn to “keep your cool”
- How to model appropriate ways to manage big feelings
Tantrums are a normal part of child development and EVERYONE feels themselves feeling overwhelmed and defeated by them at one time or another.
But I have already tried everything and NOTHING works, how do I know this will be different?
- Each child responds to behavior modification techniques differently and it consistently changes. Which means different things will work at different ages. What worked for your child at 4 may not work any more by age 6 and what did not work at age 5 may work at age 6.
- Another common assumption that parents make is that if your child is initially unresponsive to a certain technique then it doesn’t work. I generally tell my clients to give their child 1-3 months of a consistent response to their behaviors before ruling it out.
If THEY are the one throwing tantrums why am I the one who needs to go to counseling?
- Good question! Ideally, I recommend both the parents and the child explore the benefits of counseling. However, you as parents/guardians have a HUGE impact on how your child sees the world. As parents/guardians YOU are your child’s first hero and they want to be just like you – learning to model appropriate ways to process “big feelings” can have a huge influence on your child. You are also the one individual/s who is/are around the child more than anyone else, therefore, it stands to reason that if I am able to help you handle tantrums then, in turn, through your continual repetition they will too.
Testimonial“Ashley Errico has a unique gift when it comes to defusing a child’s anger in the midst of a tantrum. She remains calm and gentle yet stern as she guides them through the emotion” – Anna W., District Manager of medical device sales and Mom of 2 girls
So, why should we work with you?
This is a great question! Here are some of the things that set me apart from other therapists:
- I have worked with children and their families for over 10 years in varying ways
- I have a Bachelor’s degree in Early Childhood Education and am a former teacher
- I have been trained in multiple behavior modification techniques
- I created and present a workshop entitled “Big Feelings, Little Kids”, please feel free to take a look at that page of this site as well
- My clients describe me as understanding, patient and compassionate
If you have any questions please feel free to contact me. I invite you to call or email me to set up a consultation to see how you feel and we can decide if we would be a good fit for you and/or your child.